The Power of Empathy!

It’s not so much about sympathizing with people and making them feel better with things or with stories to please their ego. It’s about getting to the core of things with people. Connecting with them, feeling what they are feeling, relating to them and bringing no judgement into the situation at all. Next time you are the ear that listens, provide words that don’t fulfill an ego/mind story and see how much of a difference it makes for the other person.   Cheers, M    

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Reflections.

A few nights ago, I had a really heartfelt chat with someone I consider pretty close to me and someone I’ve grown to become protective over in making sure they were okay. It was in this conversation that the pointed out some of the qualities I have that I never really think about and why I do or express things the way I have. I never really gave my actions a second thought, but for me it’s a natural instinct to go over and check on people. To ask questions and to follow my gut feeling if something doesn’t feel…

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Empathic People and Protecting Themselves.

The empathy trap: therapists and counsellors almost by definition are empathic, to facilitate clients’ recovery — but this quality can mean those carers are targets for sociopaths, aided by what Dr Jane & Tim McGregor call “apaths”.  The first UK article on this cruel sport shows how to identify and thus avoid it. People targeted by a sociopath often respond with self-deprecating comments like “I was stupid”, “what was I thinking” of “I should’ve listened to my gut instinct”. But being involved with a sociopath is like being brainwashed. The sociopath’s superficial charm is usually the means by which s/he…

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The View From Bed Number 10.

A perspective we don’t always hear about whether as healthcare professionals or lay people. I highly encourage everyone to read the article, it’s not long but I think there is something for everyone to take out of it.Basic manners can go a long way not just in a professional setting but also in our own every day lives. It’s a disheartening reality to know that this kind of behaviour is not uncommon among healthcare professionals.  I think it goes to show a little can go a long way and I highly encourage people to take some time to read it. A…

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Empathy Bad For Moral Decision Making?

Paul Bloom says empathy is a capricious feeling that plays on our prejudices. By empathy, the Yale psychology professor does not mean kindness or generosity, but the process of putting yourself in someone else’s shoes as a moral guide. In his book Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion, Bloom argues empathy, as an emotion, often leads to bad moral decisions. “It feels great, but given the nature of our minds, [empathy] leads us to bias decisions, to enumerate decisions, and often, cruel decisions,” Bloom told The Current’s host Anna Maria Tremonti. Bloom says empathy speaks to our unconscious biases, which should have no role in…

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