What Not To Say To Those Struggling With Mental Illness.

For those who are grieving, the holidays are hardly “the most wonderful time of the year.” Not only are they navigating their pain, they’re doing it during a time that’s supposed to be joyous. Loved ones often try to alleviate some of the grief a person may be feeling by offering helpful phrases or advice, but what may seem like a supportive statement could actually be exacerbating a person’s sadness, Dan Reidenberg, chair of the American Psychotherapy Association, told The Huffington Post. “Certain statements don’t take into account what the grieving person is feeling,” Reidenberg said. “They end up really focused on the…

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Learning from Darkness.

I think we all feel helpless when grief and sorrow strike us or the ones we love. I’ve also come to accept that there is no time limit or one-step method to deal with this process. We all process grief or loss in our own unique ways and I don’t necessarily believe there will ever be a one size fits all method to deal with it. Oftentimes, we don’t know what to do with loss– how to work through it. And so we let it sit with us and cloud our vision and burden our hearts. But deep down what…

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How grief can lead to joy: Facebook’s Sheryl Sandberg explains Option B.

Sheryl Sandberg and Dave Goldberg were a Silicon Valley power couple. In her bestselling book Lean In, Facebook chief operating officer Sandberg wrote about how she and her husband, who was SurveyMonkey’s CEO, leaned on each other. But that suddenly came to an end on a trip the couple took to Mexico in 2015. Goldberg died from cardiac arrhythmia at the hotel’s gym. Dave Goldberg and Sheryl Sandberg were married for 11 years. Sandberg was the one who found him. And then she had to return home to California to tell her children — then aged seven and 10 — that their father was gone.…

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One More Day.

Have you ever lost someone you love and wanted one more conversation, one more chance to make up for the time when you thought they would be here forever? If so, then you know you can go your whole life collecting days, and none will outweigh the one you wish you had back. – Mitch Albom, For One More Day

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Fix You.

One of my favourite songs of all time. Watching the video was a little emotional. Brings me back to my time spent in London this time last year. Seeing him run across Waterloo bridge, somewhere I used to walk across almost every day makes me miss how things were this time last year. One of the few songs that almost makes me cry every time I hear it. Just that emotion behind the lyrics. That sense that it captures loss so perfectly. Hearing the crowd join in towards the end and the emotion that comes out is so powerful. Loss…

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Saying Goodbye.

This is going to be a pretty emotional post for me to try to write out. I spent yesterday with a close friend who has been grieving not only the loss of the relationship with let’s call him LJ that ended over the summer, but also her grief of having gone through an abortion. She had called me to come over after having spent part of the afternoon talking to him. It makes me sad because she hid it from so many people, only to open up about it with me after the fact. That she felt obligated to keep…

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Stay.

It’s been two days and the grief has yet to subside. It comes in waves, one minute i’m perfectly fine minding my own business and doing my assignments, the next minute i’m tearing up. They say time heals all wounds and I know it’ll take time for the raw emotions to pass, but at this point it just hurts to think about the fact that he’s just not with us anymore. I guess for some people I might seem irrational or sensitive, but if you’ve ever had a dog they really do become apart of your family. Think about older…

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All dogs go to heaven.

“Nobody can fully understand the meaning of love unless he’s owned a dog. A dog can show you more honest affection with a flick of his tail than a man can gather through a lifetime of handshakes.” -Gene Hill Today I let go of one of my closest friends, a family member and a loving soul that will be hard to not forget. It happened so quickly, I thought I would have time to say my goodbye but the cancer spread too quickly. Within 3 weeks he was gone, two weeks short of when I would have been coming home. Before…

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Farewell Dear Angel

Yesterday the world truly lost a special person. Normally I wouldn’t write a blog about this, but I truly think the world is a little less bright today. I learned that my friend and fellow peer guide Francis passed away from a brief illness. It honestly feels like a punch to the heart, i feel so sick to my stomach. Like the universe is playing some cruel joke. I can’t imagine what his family would be going through at this time. I send my condolences as we all try to navigate this difficult time. I was lucky to spend time…

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