Learning from Darkness.

I think we all feel helpless when grief and sorrow strike us or the ones we love. I’ve also come to accept that there is no time limit or one-step method to deal with this process. We all process grief or loss in our own unique ways and I don’t necessarily believe there will ever be a one size fits all method to deal with it. Oftentimes, we don’t know what to do with loss– how to work through it. And so we let it sit with us and cloud our vision and burden our hearts. But deep down what…

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One Day.

I realized that I cannot unlove you.
So now my heart has a new prayer.
I pray that you’ll find happiness.
And in return , I will find mine.
 I pray that someone will love me the way I loved you.
And may I love this person a thousand fold more than you.
By then I’m sure my heart will stop looking for you. —  A Prayer For My Heart // Conee Berdera

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To The Girls That Have Been Cheated On.

I thought I would try something different today and write an open letter to the girls that have had their heart broken by someone who has cheated on them. We all make promises, of course. We all tell people we love them, we care for them, we could never live without them, but much of the time it turns out to be nothing more than empty, wishful thinking. I don’t doubt the words per se, but I do think in time actions speak louder than words. They say you often hurt the people you care for the most and to an extent…

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Digging Deep.

I slowly learned that we attract what we are. You know that feeling when you meet somebody and you instantly have chemistry? That magnetic connection that’s overwhelming and hard to ignore? The feelings that cannot be explained? That my friends is infatuation. In reality, if you are a mess, you will more often than not attract a mess. If you’re insecure you’re not only going to breed more insecurity but you’re going to attract insecurity from someone else just as insecure. Thinking about things and my past relationships, I attracted what worried me or I craved the most rather than what I truly needed.…

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Empathic People and Protecting Themselves.

The empathy trap: therapists and counsellors almost by definition are empathic, to facilitate clients’ recovery — but this quality can mean those carers are targets for sociopaths, aided by what Dr Jane & Tim McGregor call “apaths”.  The first UK article on this cruel sport shows how to identify and thus avoid it. People targeted by a sociopath often respond with self-deprecating comments like “I was stupid”, “what was I thinking” of “I should’ve listened to my gut instinct”. But being involved with a sociopath is like being brainwashed. The sociopath’s superficial charm is usually the means by which s/he…

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Thoughts and Fears.

I’ve had a few thoughts i’ve been pondering over for the past few months and I thought I would finally sit down and write down my perspective. Largely due to the fact I witnessed an event yesterday between a couple that made me sit there and think about what actually makes a healthy relationship. When I offer my advice to someone I actually try to be genuine. I’m not going to tell someone they deserve better unless I actually have reason to mean it. It’s not my job to interfere in someones business. I believe many of us try to…

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The Presidential Inauguration

Today was the first day of Trump’s administration. You’re probably thinking, why do you even care since you’re Canadian. I care because I am an educated woman, a minority, and a global citizen. I get it, Trump winning was not a surprise, I knew it was coming as soon as the debates began to start. Everyone keeps talking about how it was “unanticipated” that Trump would win. That because his campaign was misogynistic and sexist it would lead to his downfall. But when you followed the media and the voices of the people you could see the dissatisfaction at the bureaucratic level…

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